How do you deal with compliments?

Nan said:

I suck them dry… but I don’t receive nearly as many as you and if I do they are all from the same individual which is also usually the same individual over and over again.

Mari said:

Mostly I just get compliments that are along the lines of “I like your shoes,” (I just got a new pair and am extremely proud of them). Usually I just say “Thanks”, and occasionally “I like your shoes, too.”

Amber said:

You really are lovely, Rachael. Learn to accept the compliments! Embrace them wholeheartedly. I’m sure many people would love to receive that amount.

As it is — I don’t deal with them at all. A hasty, ‘thank you’ and that’s all (so some people think I’m being haughty but I’m not!). I don’t think I’m worthy of compliments, or think the person is lying.

Rilla said:

I think it gets really annoying when people start defending against compliments they receive, it feels like they’re just trying to get more. You know, the whole typical girl saying “I’m so fat! I really am!” etc.

So I think a sweet “thank you” is good enough but I do always doubt myself and wonder if the person is complimenting out of politeness. Usually it comes as a surprise but oh well, it still feels good.

Vera said:

I tend to get suspicious of them as well… but deep down I know I had some sort of ulterior motive for doing it So in the end I just thank them thinking “eh they don’t know I’m not that nice, as a matter of fact”.

Annie said:

Aw, those are lovely compliments. They do help build up confidence, even if it’s just for a moment. I think it’s good to feel negative because it just shows that you’re not constantly depending on compliments. However you needn’t always feel negative - you are a lovely person

I fish for compliments, like, always Heh - just kidding. The response depends on the compliment. Most of the time I reply with “thank you” and/or return a compliment. Sometimes I smile, although I’m pretty much sure it (unintentionally) doesn’t always appear sincere.

Rachael said:

I think it gets really annoying when people start defending against compliments they receive, it feels like they’re just trying to get more. You know, the whole typical girl saying “I’m so fat! I really am!” etc.

Eep. I hope I don’t come across like that! I apologise if I do. D:

Tracy said:

When they’re from my boyfriend I’ll say thanks, maybe return the compliment.

When the guys in my office compliment me (for my work) I’m abashed and say “naah” .. or “thanks” - depending

I’ll smile.

Mari said:

I refuse to receive compliments on my writing. I am set on the fact that everything I write is bad, and so when giving it to someone to read (which I hate doing) I’ll run out of the room and cover my ears as they read it. Of course I like getting compliments on my writing, but I also can’t stand it and I never want to be there when someone says something about it. Of course, on the Internet it’s different for me. I like people to read it and give comments. Maybe because I don’t have to be there when they say it?

Claire said:

When I get comments, I say ‘Thank you,’ but I also feel weird because sometimes I don’t feel I should get compliments. I am also highly critical of myself.

I don’t know you very well, but I’m sure you are awesome. ^^

Sean said:

I smile and say thanks, although I usually do argue a little with the compliment if I don’t believe it’s genuine and it’s just to be nice. I HATE THAT.

Clem said:

My friend is an awesome artist but she never accepts compliments. She always says, “No, it sucks.” This ends up making people mad, so it’s best just to say thank you. You won’t sound egotistical if you thank the person - just don’t say, “I know” or “That’s not true!!”

rosie said:

smile and say ‘thank you’. alittle blush (which you can not help) is nice. accept it and have it make the rest of your day be a happier one. it’s hard i know. every one is their own worse critic. we all think negetive and if someone says something nice we find it odd. just accept it. and you KNOW how i feel about one of the most amazing, funny, adorable people who i have ever had the chance ot talk to and yap with. you ARE amazing, i just wish you could realize that. what wonderful and amazing things you could do if you just realized that. one day the right person will come along and you will gain that confidence. they will be VERY VERY VERY lucky to have you. huggles and love !

and hey i’m on here too! under dellaisabella! or is that dellaisabelle either one !!

Lily said:

What I always do is say “thank you” and quickly look over them, finding something to compliment on. That way, you turn the embarrassment over to them. xD

Sometimes, when my close friends are complimenting me, I just say the cheeky “I know”. Then I laugh off the compliment.

But when someone says I’m pretty, I lose it. I can’t stand people saying that! Of course, it feels good. But how are you supposed to reply?

Chantelle said:

I’m not good at accepting compliments but, I always try to say, “Thank you” unless I’m surrounded by people whose culture dictates that compliments should be denied (then, of course, I’ll deny them).

But, I hate it when strangers hit on me. I don’t think that I’m very pretty so their actions always shock me, making me incredibly uncomfortable. I run away from them as soon as possible. I’ll never find an S.O. like this.

Anyway, online, you *do* come across as a sweet person so you shouldn’t be shocked when you receive a compliment, seriously.

Skye said:

From what I know of you, I think you’re a nice person too! It’s based on a superficial assessment, but then, first impressions lasts right? lol

I tend to dismiss compliments as lies. A lot of people don’t mean them anyway. They do it either to get a compliment in return, or they’re just purely suck-ups.

But if the compliments come from my true friends (only 4 of them), I’d take it to heart and say a big THANKS, complete with a smile!

Matt said:

I completely ignore them

Lil said:

I’m a total attention seeker, so compliments simply fuel me. I’ll reply with a really enthusiastic “YAAAY TYSM!” or “ILY”! Unless it’s from pervy old blokes in which case I start building a mental brick wall between us. I once was told by some weirdo that I had “soft hands”. I replied with “Yes I would assume so, being female and all.”

As for you I agree with the above! You’re a brilliant person so it’s no surprise you get such lovely compliments. “I certainly don’t hate you.” Made me smile that one!

Eina said:

Eh, I say thanks and run away

Thanh TiTi said:

When I receiving compliment, I said “Thank you, I also see you have that good point too”.But sometimes, I feel not confident with a compliment , because I am critical person my self, just in my thinking,at the moment, I just smile and said I am not sure about that compliment, anyway thank you, I will try to get it.